Tragedy

Let’s be real, this week has been trying for all of us. With the Camp Butte fire burning away, classes being cancelled within hours of them occurring, jobs to attend (or not), lack of exercise, change in routine, family members to care for, etc.…..I’ve been feeling pretty “off”. When you feel like your outer world is more chaotic than usual, it’s even more important that you continue to check in with how you are doing internally.

I encourage you to ask yourself after reading this, without judgement, “How am I doing, really?”. I said without judgement! So, for the sake of vulnerability, here’s how I’ve felt over the last few days. Initially I was excited that classes were cancelled. I was eager to catch up on work, get some studying in, relax a little (an activity too uncommon for the average Aggie). Those positive feelings soon changed. Each day I feel increasingly more lethargic because I can’t go outside for my usual walks or head to the gym to take a study break. My house is stuffy and my physical well-being is taking a toll on my mental well-being. I am devastated for those who are suffering even more than I from these horrible fires and feel guilty for being excited that there is no school, and for complaining at all. I don’t know what will happen with my job. Should I be working? Can I be working? Will I get paid so that I can buy my groceries next week? I’m homesick and want to see my family but I don’t live close to Davis. I want to study but the lack of daily structure is disorienting and the quiet, safe spaces available to study is limited. I have no idea what will happen to my class curriculum. Safe to say, I’ve been experiencing some negative feelings, and that is okay.

Here are some things that have helped me get through this week with a smile on my face and the reassurance that everything will be okay.

  • I mentioned this above, but I am doing it again because it is important! Checking in with myself constantly and without judgement! → Once you can focus on how you are feeling, you can accept your feelings and decide how you want to act in response to them.
  • Talking to my friends and family! → If you are experiencing negative feelings, chances are you are not alone. There is always someone who will listen, and you will feel better for sharing!
  • Making sure I am still getting my top 3 most important things for the day done, (within reason). →  It is hard to stay focused and on task, but things will return to “normal” soon and if you don’t do your best to stay prepared for school, work, etc., they will be much harder to return to. That being said, be patient with yourself and understanding that these conditions are not optimal.
  • Finding ways to move a little while inside and healthy ways to take breaks. → Whether that’s putting on a blogilates video, stretching, dancing with a housemate, coloring, or cleaning up that messy closet. Find ways to move your body, inside, and take care of both your mental and physical well-being!

Know that this too shall pass. You are valid in whatever you are feeling and you are not alone. We will get through this challenging week together. We got this!!

Written by:

A Fellow Aggie

Here are some resources that might help your well-being this week:

  • Tips for coping with tragedy: https://uhs.berkeley.edu/coping-trauma-grief-loss-and-tragic-news-and-events
  • Free food, n95 masks, and resources available from Aggie Compass: https://aggiecompass.ucdavis.edu Follow them on Facebook for live updates at “UC Davis Aggie Compass”.
  • Someone available 24/7 to talk to if in an uneasy mental state- Crisis Text Line: Text “RELATE” to 741741
  • Free n95 masks are available at any of the Davis fire stations from 8AM-5PM : Station 31: 530 5th St, Station 32: 1350 Arlington Blvd, Station 33: 425 Mace Blvd
  • See this link for ways to volunteer in the Sacramento